Let’s be clear. When we talk about “hitting” a narcissist, we’re not talking about a crude, physical act. We’re talking about a psychological slap delivered with the precision of a neurosurgeon and the finality of a dropped guillotine.
The goal isn’t to engage in their messy, mud-slinging games. The goal is to fundamentally alter the physics of your interaction, moving yourself from the position of a target to that of a black hole — a place where their nonsense simply ceases to exist.
This isn’t about revenge; it’s about achieving a state of being so powerful and unbothered that messing with you becomes, for them, an act of immediate and profound self-sabotage.
Here’s your four-step battle plan.
Master Their Playbook
Just remember what our wise friend Sun Tzu told us:
If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles.Your first hit is an act of intelligence gathering. You must become the world’s foremost expert on the narcissist’s evil playbook.
They have a huge but predictable arsenal of strategies which they use as they see fit. Learn as many of their manipulation tactics and mind games as you can.
Don’t limit yourself to just a few strategies. Gaslighting alone has so many forms. Your goal is to learn their tactics so well that they become boringly predictable. The moment you can predict their moves, their power evaporates. It’s hard to be intimidated by a villain whose entire script you’ve already memorized.
Build Your Sword and Shield
For too long, you’ve been going into a sword fight armed with a spoon. That spoon is made of your good intentions, your empathy, and the naive hope that they will one day see reason. It’s time to put it away and forge some real weapons.
Your shield is the art of Defensive Mind Games. This is employing manipulation for a good end. You don’t tell a greedy powerful person where you have hidden your money. If you refuse outright they crush you. If you say yes, the money is gone so you play a game that fools the greedy person and protects the money.
Have a Support System More Robust Than the Narcissist
A narcissist’s support system is a rickety house of cards built from flying monkeys, enablers, and fair-weather fans. It’s wide, but it’s shallow and can be blown over by a single gust of truth.
Your support system is your fortress, built on the bedrock of reality. Your three key allies are Evidence, Truth, and God.
You turn to evidence — the screenshots, the emails, the documented facts — to keep you grounded when they try to rewrite history.
You turn to Truth, the objective reality that exists outside their warped perception.
And you turn to your higher power for strength that doesn’t depend on anyone else’s approval.
While they are desperately trying to manage their public image, you are quietly aligning yourself with indestructible forces. They cannot fight this.
You Heal and Discard the Poison
This is the final hit. The one they never see coming because it happens entirely inside of you. A narcissist is a psychological squatter who, even after they’re gone, leaves behind toxic shit in your mind: the belief that you’re not good enough, the feeling that it was all your fault, the lingering fear of their judgment.
Healing is the act of ruthlessly throwing out these shitty beliefs. You go to therapy. You journal. You meditate. You discover who you really are. Every bit of self-worth you reclaim is a blow to their legacy.
The ultimate hit — the one that makes them permanently irrelevant — is the moment you achieve a state of genuine, profound indifference. When the thought of them brings not pain or anger, but a quiet, dismissive ‘’who?’’ you have won the war so completely that they can never mess with you again. They have been deleted from your soul.
Ready to Forge Your Own Sword and Shield?
I’ve created the tools to turn this battle plan into your reality.
To master the Defensive Mind Games mentioned in Step 2, you need The Art of War: Survivor Edition.
To ruthlessly throw out the “shitty beliefs” mentioned in Step 4, you need the War on Lies Journal.
To build the indifferent, powerful new You who can finally say “who?”, you need the Armor of Truth Journal.Stop being the target. Start being the black hole. The tools are right here.
