You’ve asked yourself a thousand times: Why me? Why was I placed in a narcissist’s life? Here’s the shocking truth:
To Bring Them Good Luck
Good people carry blessings. Often, the goodness that flows in the world is channeled through those who embody it — you were that channel for the narcissist.
Think about it. The marriage coasted because you were the source of comfort. The project succeeded because you were the supportive one. The job was bearable because you were the good person in the room. Yet, of course, the goodness and ease you brought were lost on them.
In their mind, they weren’t benefiting from your light; they were a “luck magnet,” a “master manifester,” a genius whose brilliance was finally being recognized. They took full credit for every blessing you inadvertently channeled their way, strutting around as if they had a direct line to the universe. In reality, they were simply reaping the rewards of being with a truly good person.
To Show Them What a Real Good Person Looks Like
A narcissist’s self-perception is a funhouse mirror — distorted, grotesquely flattering, and utterly divorced from reality. They genuinely believe they are the hero of every story, a paragon of virtue who is simply misunderstood. So, the universe sent in a field agent: you. You were a live-action, high-definition demonstration of “Empathy 101.”
You apologized when you were wrong. You listened without interrupting. You gave without expecting anything in return. You were a living, breathing instruction manual for the species Decent Humanus.
They watched you with the baffled curiosity of a cat watching a magic trick. They didn’t learn; they merely observed, taking meticulous notes on which actions they could mimic later to appear human in social situations. You weren’t their teacher; you were their source material for a more convincing disguise.
To Make Their Life Free of Excuses
This was the most critical part of your mission: to serve as pre-emptive evidence for the prosecution. Every narcissist has a well-rehearsed sob story prepared for Judgment Day, a PowerPoint presentation of victimhood detailing how the world was against them, how no one ever gave them a chance, and how they were never shown true kindness.
Your existence single-handedly demolishes that entire defense.
When the time comes and they stand before the ultimate judge, ready to launch into their tale of woe, the universe will simply roll the tapes. It will show you, offering them love. It will show you, giving them your support. It will show you, being the very chance they claimed they never had.
You are the karmic receipt that proves they received everything they needed to choose a better path. Your presence in their life wasn’t just a relationship; it was the universe’s way of closing every single loophole for their inevitable spiritual audit.
Good Fortune as a Test
Ultimately, your role can be summed up in one word: a test. You were the ultimate pop quiz. The universe handed the narcissist a priceless treasure — your love, your loyalty, your light — and asked one simple, multiple-choice question:
A) Will you cherish this gift?
B) Will you share this gift?
C) Will you try to consume this gift until nothing is left and then blame it for not being enough?
We all know which option they chose. They didn’t just fail the test; they set the answer sheet on fire, blamed the paper for being flammable, and then demanded a perfect score.
Your purpose was never to get them to pass. The test was designed to simply get them to show their work. And in that, your mission was a resounding success. You were the catalyst that forced them to reveal their true, unchangeable character to themselves and to the universe. Your assignment is complete.
Consider Yourself Debriefed.
Your assignment was to be their karmic audit. That mission is complete. But the intel you’ve gathered is useless without a strategy to reclaim your own territory. My book bundle, The Survivor’s War Chest, is not more observation. It is the offensive playbook. It is the tactical guide that turns survivors into victors.
You have the intel.
